The time has come to address as a nation what Heather Mac Donald noted earlier this year is “the greatest social catastrophe of our time”: fatherlessness. Fatherlessness is the No. 1 cause of nearly all social ills we face. We can’t afford to ignore it any longer.

To be clear, father absence is the more accurate term, since fatherlessness implies that men have become “deadbeat dads” — nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, this faction exists, as do “deadbeat moms.” But the two most significant threats to a father’s presence in the home are divorce and out-of-wedlock births.

It’s the breakdown of marriage, in other words, or the collapse of the family, that results in father-absent homes. Whether you feel its pain directly or not, it affects you. “Families are the building blocks of civilization,” writes Genevieve Wood at the Daily Signal. “They are personal relationships, but they greatly shape and serve the public good. Family breakdown harms society as a whole.”

Indeed it does. And how, exactly, did the family fall apart? When we stopped valuing men and marriage.

There was a time, believe it or not, when marriage was highly valued. Ergo, the majority of Americans married. They even looked forward to it! It was an honorable mark of adulthood to leave one’s family of origin and build a family of one’s own.

Then came feminism. “And with it,” notes Dennis Prager in his “Fireside Chat” on marriage and children vs. career, “the notion that ‘a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.'”

This mantra was glamorized (though not coined) by Gloria Steinem in the 1970s and was quickly inculcated both in Prager’s generation and those that followed. Prager rightly defines America’s new narrative, which is directed specifically to women: “You don’t need a man; you need a career. Then you’ll be happy.”

Since this narrative first took hold, America has undergone a sea change with respect to men and marriage. Marriage began to be viewed not as a given but as a possible accompaniment to a woman’s otherwise more important and exciting independent life — and men went along for the ride. What choice did they have? Then, sometime later, America upped the ante with a full-scale war on men and, more recently, with an attack on men’s very nature.

Men and boys have heard this message loud and clear, and as a result have stepped back or stopped trying. Boys are failing to grow up and make something of themselves because they lack fathers who can help them do just that. They lack fathers because America has made it clear that men are superfluous and even dangerous to women and children.

As a result, half of America’s citizens have been marginalized, as evidenced by the meteoric rise of Jordan Peterson, who never set out to become a voice for men but inadvertently kicked over a hornet’s nest. The sheer number of males who cling to Peterson’s words of hope is staggering. He has become a lifeline to a lost generation of men.

That’s really what we’re up against on Father’s Day: a lost generation of men. But it will be our loss in the end. We can’t afford for men to retreat any further than they have. The nuclear family is the foundation of America’s greatness; and a dearth of productive men invariably means, as Tucker Carlson noted in January, the subsequent disintegration of marriage.

These two cannot be separated. Women don’t want to marry unemployed men or men who have no purpose. But women do want children and will go to great lengths to have them in unconventional ways. Thus, children (boys especially, since girls will still have their mothers) will remain fatherless, and the cycle will continue.

It is time for people to say “Enough!” We cannot survive as a nation without strong and competent men raising strong and competent boys who become the kind of men that women want to marry.

We know those in power will do nothing about it; they’ve already proven it in spades. “The elites are absolutely unwilling to send the message that fathers are as important to their children as mothers,” Mac Donald told Carlson. “Their tongues are tied — they refuse to say it. It’s one of those truths that’s being completely denied by elite culture. Why? Because it violates the feminist nostrum that women can do it all.”

And there it is.

It has been 50 years since feminists first began to make the claim that women don’t need men, and by every statistical measure we are worse off because of it. How much longer are we willing to stay silent?

via Washington Examiner

4 Comments to: The Future of Men and Marriage is Bleak

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    Rusty Schalin

    August 11th, 2019

    This country has succumbed to all of the 45 declared goals of communism. # 40: Discredit the family as an institution; # 41: Raise children away from parents. Listening to many women and you hear “baby daddy” and many times there are many children with the same mother and many “baby daddies”. ( unmarried fathers of these kids) Kids need the influence of both parents, a male and a female. The problem is so sever and now there are 3 generations of the “ghost” father. That “evil” Bible had the correct truths about society, marriage and family.

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    August 12th, 2019

    Don’t blame the mothers. In the 60s suddenly women were told they were lazy if they didn’t embark on a career and were told they could do it all. Bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan, and never let him forget he’s a man …yes …a prominent commercial of the time. All I wanted was to be a good wife and mother and already shame was coming from that. As if it was lazy and irresponsible. I don’t think as many women bought into that as men did. It gave them a nice easy out for marrying and for taking care of family. Women were now expected to do it all. It was easy to create a generation of entitled men who became more and more lazy and took advantage of that 2nd income for boy toys and video games. Now men could be eternal children and create a mommy out of their wives. Because this was also my reality I ended up raising and supporting fully 3 children on my own who turned out very well. The fallacy is that any man in the home is better than none. Nothing could be further from the truth. I didn’t want my son or daughters thinking that was what marriage is. A lazy entitled man is not the example.

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      Josh Long

      September 1st, 2019

      I grew up as a white male in a single mother household. She chose to marry the entitled man, and that didnt work out for either of them. Now I’m an adult and I cant find a girlfriend, let alone someone to marry and have a nuclear family with.

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      Ezekiel J Watters

      April 5th, 2022

      It never ceases to amaze me the way that women instinctively eschew accountability and always find a way to pin their fuckups on men. Feminism and it’s negative societal fallout is clearly the result of women as a whole taking a wrong turn.

      I’ve heard your version of events, now I’d like to hear his to figure out what really happened.


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